Where is the Download Icon on macOS Ventura 13.0.1

So I assume I will need to go to my download folders in the system and not Safari.

Yes.

I guess I never use it in Safari. The download swooshes into the Dock, and then it bounces when it is done and I go there. I don't really remember ever seeing it, but when you asked, I had it in the toolbar for something I had downloaded earlier.

It is only visible if there are downloads. If you clear the list, it goes away.

It shows up in the right-hand side next to the Share icon. I don't think you can make it show all the time.