Hi rkk46,
From https://appleid.apple.com/faq/
"Can I share an Apple ID with someone else?
Your Apple ID should not be shared with anyone else. It provides access to personal information including contacts, photos, device backups, and more. Sharing your Apple ID with someone else means you are giving them access to all your personal content and may lead to confusion over who actually owns the account. To share iTunes & App Store purchases, photos, a calendar, and more with someone else, try Family Sharing [https://support.apple.com/HT202786], iCloud Photo Sharing [https://support.apple.com/HT202786], or other easy-to-use sharing features."
One of you needs to create a separate ID if you do not already. What you say about "under the family planning" (which I take to mean you are using Family Sharing) implies you already have separate IDs.
Merging Apple accounts (IDs) or transferring data is not officially supported, nor can it be done easily or completely. Read the links below for things you may need to do to transfer as much as is possible. Unfortunately Contacts cannot be shared with Family Sharing but you can export them and import them
Import or export a vCard in Contacts on iCloud.com - Apple Support
iCloud things are Apple ID specific so you will have to find ways to export them to a universally accessible location and then re-import them to the new ID.
Look into using Family Sharing to continue to be able to use items purchased with one Apple ID with other Apple IDs.
- Family Sharing - What is Family Sharing? - Apple Support
- Set up Family Sharing - Set up Family Sharing - Apple Support
Share folders with iCloud Drive --> Share files and folders in iCloud Drive on iCloud.com - Apple Support
Read How to use Shared Albums in Photos on your iPhone, iPad, and Mac - Apple Support about about how to share photos.
If you have signed into the ID on two devices then fortunately when you sign out of one ID and sign in with a different one it asks you in most cases if you wish to retain the data from it on your device. Say yes and then delete individual items you do not want.
Sign out of iCloud on your iPhone, iPad, iPod touch, Apple TV, or Mac --> Sign out of iCloud on your iPhone, iPad, iPod touch, Apple TV, or Mac - Apple Support
If another Apple ID is signed in you may need to enter the password for that ID to sign out of that ID first.
Click on this link to learn how to 'Sign in with your Apple ID' --> Sign in with your Apple ID - Apple Support
Additional contributor posts:
- Apr. 2018 post by ASC helper Winston Churchill on transferring data from one Apple ID to another. Can I merge two iCloud accounts - Apple Community
- Feb. 2021 tips from Eric Root Apple ID - Apple Community