Hi ason288
welcome to the Apple (user-to-user) Community.
Wondering if you have enough memory / storage free (Eg at least 8Gb free) for your iPhone to operate smoothly.
How to check the storage on your iPhone and iPad - Apple Support
If needed: See: "Manage space on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch” in the article below
If you need more space for an update on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support
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If memory / storage is not causing the difficulty:
Check if you have any third-party (non-Apple) apps that may cause interference ... eg ad-blockers, unnecessary virus checkers, cleaners, and the like ... even VPN can be a source of problems ... or apps that have not been updated to remain compatible with recent Apple updates. Eg: If you have such apps, try turning them off, and see if any have been causing your difficulties.
Wondering which apps are the ones slow to load : could it be apps (eg Safari) that use the internet.
Eg: You may need a strong wi-fi signal for FaceTime etc.
All the best :-)