Focus mode for one contact with "This user has notifications silenced" message and still receive all other messages?

Hello macgirl,

We have a great support article that might help with this. Please take a look at it here: Allow or silence notifications for a Focus on iPhone - Apple Support. Follow this guidance:

"Allow or silence notifications from specific people during a Focus

1. Go to Settings  > Focus, then choose a Focus—for example, Do Not Disturb, Personal, Sleep, or Work.
2. Tap People (or tap Choose People), then do one of the following: 

• Allow specific people: Tap Allow Notifications From, tap , then select from your contacts.
• You can also turn on options to allow calls from certain groups of people and allow repeated calls (two or more calls from the same person within 3 minutes).
• Silence specific people: Tap Silence Notifications From, tap , then select from your contacts.
• You can also turn on Allow Calls From Silenced People.

Note: Regardless of your Focus settings, you can allow calls from your emergency contacts to come through. See Allow calls from emergency contacts when notifications are silenced, below."

We hope this helps. Let us know if we can assist with anything else at all. Take care.

Thanks for letting us know those additional details macgirl,

If the Focus isn't working the way you want it to, your best bet is to submit Product Feedback and let Apple know about your experience.

Hope that helps.