I am unable to use my EarPods with my iPhone 14 Pro Max

Since the iPhone 14 only has a Lightning port, I will assume that you have the Apple wired EarPods that also have a Lightning connector ... correct?

Let's start with:

• Have you tried using these EarPods with any other device to see if they will work with them?
• Have you verified that the iPhone's Lightning port is free of any type of debris?
• Have you closely examined the EarPods Lightning connector for any signs of wear or damage?

Ref:

• Use EarPods with iPhone - Apple Support (CA)
• Use Apple wired headphones - Apple Support

No, you have no friends or relatives that can help you, or no, you do, but the EarPods still did not work?

For the latter, your next step would be to reach out to Apple Support directly. To do so, simply select the "Support" link on the lower left-hand side of this forum's web page.

Which exact model are these wired earbuds? How are you connecting them to your iPhone 14? That is, directly or via an adapter?

Might it be possible to ask a friend or relative to help you out to test these EarPods?