Gozoman wrote:
Is there any way of turning this AAE stuff off
It depends on the workflow. It has been a while since I tested this but the last time it was like below.
Have you done any edits in the mobile device? Or is the camera set as 16:9 which really shoots with the whole 4:3 sensor and automatically crops it so it is also regarded as an edit.
.AAE sidecar file describes the edits done on iOS devices. If you AirDrop or import such iPhone image then all three related files IMG_*.HEIC (original), IMG_*.heic (edited version) and IMG_*.AAE to Photos, are treated as one image. If the .AAE file is missing, Photos imports the original and the edited version as two separate images.
Photos's edit panel allows you to see which editing options were used and then revert just that or all to the original.
Personally I do not care about the .AAE files because I always import only the originals via USB (and Image Capture.app) which forces only the originals to import (without pixel or metadata edits) and do any editing on the Mac (with Lightroom, GraphicConverter or exiftool).
AirDrop "All Photos Data" option (with on the Mac side "Save to Downloads" or "Open in Photos" option selected in some macOS versions) transfers original image and movie. If image or movie pixel data has been edited, there is the original IMG_0001.* and the edited IMG_E0001.* (confusingly both with original metadata!), and image and movie IMG_0001.AAE sidecar files describing the edits.