How to transfer iPad ownership without a factory reset?

you can't all data and all apps will forever be tied to the apple account it's set up with

these are the steps you need to take What to do before you sell, give away, or trade in your iPhone or iPad - Apple Support

otherwise it will forever just be her using your ipad

19wentworth wrote:

Yes thanks for that. Doesn't really solve my issue, sadly. Hey ho.

In theory, you could just log out of your Apple Account and sign back in on hers. However, every single time an app downloaded using your Apple ID needed to be updated, your Apple Account credentials would need to be entered.

You could also, I suppose, take screenshots of all the home screens (and App Library) and of the settings pages for any apps you think might be difficult to remember how you had them configured.

We are just other Apple users here, trying to help other Apple users. We can only describe how to use the system that is in place. We cannot initiate any changes to what Apple has put in place. You can let Apple know what you think.

https://www.apple.com/feedback/