Hi. I have a solution, it is not perfect but it worked for me. I am not a computer wizzard so don't ask me any questions as to why this worked or didn't I can' only tell you what I did.
About 1 year ago now my iphone would suddenly no longer connect to my home wifi network. All the other computers and printers were fine but my iphone just would not connect. Sometimes if I was lucky when I restarted the modem it would think about working for a minute or 2 and then again give me the message either "unable to connect" or "connection timed out".
I live in Florence Italy by the way. The Apple Store here was completely useless and no help at all.
When I was in NYC last november the genius team there were also baffled. I had tried all the reset solutions (no luck), all the forum suggesions painstakingly followed through (no luck).
I have followed lots of frustrated comments about exactly this problem over the last year. It seems we are not alone with this problem and it is triggered by an update and there is no known solution.
TODAY....my iphone works again. YIPEE!!
So what I did was buy a mac time machine. Yes, unfortunately Apple's mistakes have caused me to spend more money with them, but I have solved my problem and bought a very goog back up devise into the deal.
So then I followed the instructions and set up the TIME MACHINE, when you set it up to your normal modem ( the one that you can't at the moment connect to), you have the opportunity to set it up to create a wifi network. Name your wifi network whatever you like and give it a password (this has to be different from the wifi network that currently comes from your modem). Follow through all the set up steps.
Finally at the end you have your old wifi network (I think it still works I have not tested it yet I am so thrilled to have my iphone working again I don't want to mess it up by pressing the wrong button), and you have your NEW wifi network that goes through the TIME MACHINE (please excuse my technical language, I really don't know how to describe all this stuff in computer lingo). The new one from the TIME MACHINE works on the iphone.
It is a kind of bypass solution, not cheap and I am still annoyed the Apple did not sort this out for me, but hey....I'm over it already, what are you going to do.
Good luck.
Please don't bother telling me I am wrong or have misunderstood the problem, or could have easily done it another way....that will only be really annoying as I have been carefully and intelligently trying to solve this problem for over a year, and all I want now is to SHARE and hope it helps.
Ciao.