How can I stop Mail from opening

Whenever I use ANY web browser (Safari or Firefox) and click on an e-mail (mailto) link, Apple Mail opens. It is driving me crazy. I am about to throw my computer away and go back to using good old paper and a pencil to do everything.

I have tried the following:

Firefox:

Preferences/Applications/mailto and changed the drop-down to gmail (that is the browser my wife uses and the mail she uses)

THIS WORKED FOR FIREFOX

Safari:

The preferences panel has nothing about how to handle mail requests.

So I went into Mail (which I frikkin hate by the way, worse than anything you could ever imagine)

Mail's preferences don't have an option for ANYTHING to handle mail... besides Mail (which is a horrible program).

When I click select and choose Firefox, Safari, anything, it reverts back to mail.

I want mail to STOP opening when I click an e-mail address. I am fine with the solution for Firefox. How do I configure Safari to do the same?

THANKS!!!!!