FWIW, everyone had seemed in agreement turning off WiFi sync would work around the problem, so I did that long ago. But then I took note of a couple of posts that suggested you could then turn WiFi sync back on and the problem would not return. So I did that recently, and sure enough, the problem has not come back.
WiFi sync has always been flaky for me - sometimes my computer will not recognize the iPad, sometimes it starts to then disconnects. And this remains true after turning WiFi sync off then back on. But ATH.exe no longer runs up the CPU, so I'm at least as good as I've ever been.
Anyhow, I have no real confidence that this is a real solution, but it is completely harmless to try: just turn WiFi sync back on (you'll need to connect via USB, of course, to do that) and see what happens. Agreed that Apple should have responded to this by now, as it seems a pretty common problem. I have a suspicion they *have* responded, by putting a fix in place in iTunes 11. They were of course hoping to have had that out by now, so they may have thought this would be good enough.