So I took my laptop out for the day. Got home, hooked it all up. iTunes is set to launch at startup. Not sure if phone or iPad mini were plugged in when it booted, but I think not. At some point I plugged them Both into power. Came back like 15 mins later. Both devices were in sidebar of iTunes. I ejected both thru iTunes. Restarted iTunes. A bit later iPad is there, no phone. Waited a while. Restarted iTunes. Waited a while and still neither has shown up. I seem to almost always be able to Home Share with either device using Music, Videos, or Remote apps with no problem.
I unplugged both devices from power. Shut down laptop for a few. Rebooted it. Kept both devices so screens were on. A bit after iTunes launched, my phone shows up in sidebar, but after 5 mins still no iPad.
The only logical conclusion conceivable is that this is all related to my using Win7, with Connectify running as my router. It is now totally obvious that if I were to go out and buy a new Apple MacBook Air, and Apple AirPort router this would all work flawlessly like it does for all the other Apple Purists. And if it didn't, then surely adding an Apple TV would solve my problem once and for all! I strongly suggest you go drop a grand or two at the Apple Store, like I'm about to do, so y'all can stop your petulant whining!
Nah, I'm just gonna keep using the cable when I need to, cuz it causes me zero headache. But, I really, really wish Apple would solve this thing, or at least just say " Hey, we know it's a problem. We are working to solve it." If it didn't make a single one of us happy, it would at keep us all from being so ****** off, wasting our time researching, fiddling with, posting and complaining about it.
AARRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!!