iPhoto Albums not seen in iTunes after iOS 6 update

I upgraded a 3rd gen iPad and an iPhone 4 to iOS 6, then updated my Macbook Pro (2.4 ghz quad core i7, 8GB RAM) to 10.8.2 with the requisite iPhoto update. Now, iTunes will not show my iPad even though wireless sync is enabled, unless the iPad is connected to the laptop via the docking cable. Both iPhone and iPad error out on synch with an error 1140 if synching photos is enabled. Under the photo tab, the button to have "selected albums, events and faces" is grayed out. So I can only select to sync ALL photos or none. I believe the error 1140 is stemming from my library being too large to sync to the i-device. In any case, I can no longer choose certain albums that were enabled under iOS 5. The area below these options in the Photos tab in iTunes also does not show any albums, where it used to do so in a grayed out fashion even if that option was not selected. Major issue here. Have tried all the rebuild and repair of iPhoto library. The kicker is that both the devices I upgraded have the exact same issue, so I'm thinking this is an update/Apple problem, not an issue with my devices or config.