Sadly, you are correct and this tells us Apple is playing the "ignorance is bliss" card. Probably to make us all feel like our computers are inept and that we need to buy new Apple computers or something. Anyway, I just came back from a business trip so my MBP 15" (Late 2010) was set to hibernatemode=3 (the proper choice for use as a mobile laptop). After connecting said computer to my Thunderbold display and allowing it to falling asleep, I encountered the same old issue as everyone else here. I promptly ran the following at the command line:
sudo pmset -a hibernatemode 0
and verified the settings with this command
pmset -g
And hope this will once again solve the issue (as I discovered this solution, wrote a quick Applescript app for everyone here to run).
Will report back later after the MBP goes to sleep
**sidenote: After some further thought on the matter, I think we should experiment with the "Displays" system settings and see if we all have the Thunderbolt display set as the primary monitor (has the white menu bar on the screen in the "Arrangement" tab). I'd bet money that this is the case. And, perhaps why Apple can't replicate the issue. At some point I will this test myself, but I was curious if anyone else has their display settings set up like me?