I bought my daughter a ipad mini for x-mas. I want to set it up with my itunes account that has all of our music and movies. My phone is connected to this account. Can I set up her ipad with her email so that she can imessage friends but not see all of m?

No, that will not work well for you. You need to get her an Apple ID of her own and a separate email address. Create a new user account for her on your computer so she can maintain her own iTunes library for her music, apps, photos, etc.

You can open an iTunes Store account using your charge card or you can create it to use no charge card so she can only get free apps: Creating an iTunes Store, App Store, iBooks Store, and Mac App Store account without a credit card.

iTunes- How to set up an Apple ID within iTunes

Using FaceTime http://support.apple.com/kb/ht4319

Troubleshooting FaceTime http://support.apple.com/kb/TS3367

The Complete Guide to FaceTime + iMessage: Setup, Use, and Troubleshooting

http://tinyurl.com/a7odey8

Troubleshooting FaceTime and iMessage activation

http://support.apple.com/kb/TS4268

iOS: FaceTime is 'Unable to verify email because it is in use'

http://support.apple.com/kb/TS3510

Using FaceTime and iMessage behind a firewall

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4245

iOS: About Messages

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT3529

Set up iMessage

http://www.apple.com/ca/ios/messages/

iOS 6 and OS X Mountain Lion: Link your phone number and Apple ID for use with FaceTime and iMessage

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT5538

How to Set Up & Use iMessage on iPhone, iPad, & iPod touch with iOS

http://osxdaily.com/2011/10/18/set-up-imessage-on-iphone-ipad-ipod-touch-with-io s-5/

Extra FaceTime IDs

http://tinyurl.com/k683gr4

Troubleshooting Messages

http://support.apple.com/kb/TS2755

Troubleshooting iMessage Issues: Some Useful Tips You Should Try

http://www.igeeksblog.com/troubleshooting-imessage-issues/

Setting Up Multiple iOS Devices for iMessage and Facetime

http://macmost.com/setting-up-multiple-ios-devices-for-messages-and-facetime.htm l

FaceTime and iMessage not accepting Apple ID password

http://www.ilounge.com/index.php/articles/comments/facetime-and-imessage-not-acc epting-apple-id-password/

Fix Can’t Sign Into FaceTime or iMessage iOS 7

http://ipadtutr.com/fix-login-facetime-imessage-ios-7/

FaceTime, Game Center, Messages: Troubleshooting sign in issues

http://support.apple.com/kb/TS3970

Unable to use FaceTime and iMessage with my apple ID

https://discussions.apple.com/thread/4649373?tstart=90

How to Block Someone on FaceTime

http://www.ehow.com/how_10033185_block-someone-facetime.html

My Facetime Doesn't Ring

https://discussions.apple.com/thread/4155326

Send an iMessage as a Text Message Instead with a Quick Tap & Hold

http://osxdaily.com/2012/11/18/send-imessage-as-text-message/

To send messages to non-Apple devices, check out the TextFree app https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/text-free-textfree-sms-real/id399355755?mt=8

How to Send SMS from iPad

http://www.iskysoft.com/apple-ipad/send-sms-from-ipad.html

You can check the status of the FaceTime/iMessage servers at this link.

http://www.apple.com/support/systemstatus/

 Cheers, Tom 😉

Yes, you can set it up so she doesn't receive your messages. The problem is that it requires trust for she can change it back to receiving your messages at any time via Settings->Messages.

I currently have four iPads, two iPhones, and three iMacs all using the same AppleID and they all have their own separate iMessage and FaceTime addresses. It works well for I work in a trusted environment. Any of the users at any time could add the address of another device to their iOS device/iMac and receive iMessages sent to that device—they just don't do that.

So if you trust your daughter won't change her system to read messages directed to you then she can share your AppleID. To be absolutely sure she can't read messages directed to you separate AppleIDs are required as Kappy has already suggested.