I spent some time today with BetterTouchTool (BTT) and seem to have sorted things. All I was looking to achieve was to get rid of the ESC key that is way too sensitive.
With BTT installed, here is what I did:
- Click "TouchBar"
- Click "General Touch Bar Settings"
- Check "Enable Touch Bar Support"
- Uncheck "Show macOS Control Strip"
- Check Show "BTT icon in Control Strip"
- All Other items are unchecked
- Click Close

- Click "+ TouchBar Button"
- Give the button a Name...I chose "Unhide the Touch Bar with Satan Spawn ESC key"
- For "Predefined Action:" choose "Toggle BTT Touch Bar"

- Click "Advanced Configuration" for the button and choose where you want it to appear...I chose the right side for "Item Placement..."

Now my Touch Bar looks like this:

With nothing else on the Touch Bar:

This Touch Bar persists across all apps. If I tap the button, the regular Touch Bar returns with a BTT icon in the Control Strip...it looks like the BTT icon. The only time I don't see the BTT icon is when I have forced display of the regular Function keys in Excel.
I hope this helps.