Screen time not blocking youtube

BTW: I am scheduling a meetjng with school counselor licensed therapist and show her what im doing as far as screen time and parental controls, and see what my son is still vulnerable to. Keep in mind whowver reads this post, my som just got an Iphone in October 2018. February 2019, here I am dealing with this addiction ans lack of control. This is real, not made up or exaggerated. Our children are at risk getting sucked in , in a very short period of time. Our school licensed therapist said it is like a drug, and the childrens brains and neuro pathways change the same as if they are getting rewarded whne they take a drug. Parents, lets beg Apple to do more and even be accountable to have mislead us to believe we have control to protect our children, when in fact we do not. Not to the extent they claim.

All the best parents, this is a true battle and urgency.

-another parent in distress

I agree and I am having the same experience. Plus Youtube and other Apps that are harmful if not limited. What I dont like the most was not knowing that my control over my childs usage would be limited. I hope Apple fix’s this very soon.

I am having the same issue, we have been were OurPact (for years) and it's worked great, then Apple broke it when they came out with Screen time, and Screen time does not work, will not block Snapchat or Instagram. I have tried everything short of wiping the phone and starting over. Its hard to believe that Apple would block a great application like OurPact that actually works and helps parents manage their kids social media usage just to line their pockets even more. We have been using Apple products since Gen1, this is ridiculous.

What did you do?

Please tell me, I missed a few of the postings, yet more postings form parents still having same issues. Including me!

My son lost his phone so i haven’t dealt with the issues for a month mow, but I'm hesitant to replace his phone knowing the battle will begin with Youtube and safari.

Thank you

Guess what? Apple removed my “screen time controls “ posting because its “non constructive”

unbelievable...

please take note, they don't want me to mention anything

this is mamadawn4@me.com

im concerned like all of you for our kids having too much access and too much adult access while using Apple devices and letting Apple know and hope they read out posts about these concerns. We are all bewildered on how to protect our child's minds and development and still use an iphone or ipad. I dint understand why they would remove my post rather than address the concern. All of our concerns! So Apple takes a legitimate concern and removes it from anyone to see. I believe I made valid points, one being that not just the parents buying these devices and trusting we have the controls they say we have, but also how the shareholders want the same thing. Both for the same reason: to protect this generation, our children. Their children and grandchildren. To Protect their minds and safeguard a healthy development in the digital age. And I do believe it’s misleading. Now that I know for sure Apple is aware of what seems to be a glitch or a hack, because they removed my post , then perhaps they will begin to find a solution? Its clear they intended to give us controls to monitor screen time, but its also clear the controls are not as efficient as we would like. As we NEED in order actually to do the job of PROTECTING our kids.

I hope this reply will not be removed. ☹️

Device addiction is a huge issue for every parent I speak to. We purchased a new iphone for our eldest child specifically because we had read about the new parental controls, but are now feeling let down.

AccountingWorks, well said in explaining how real and raw screen time and content effects on our kids. This validation to the realties of a child’s development after exposure to too much screen time and too much adult content is important to us all. . It is indeed painful, and we are not just guessing that these devices , content, and time spent is doing something to our kids. It REALLY IS having an IMPACT! WITHOUT CONTROL and WITHOUT PROTECTION, our kids are simply getting lost. Yes, I said lost. as though you lost your child to something. So thank you concerned parents. I hope Apple takes these concerns and postings seriously and is guded by them. while making company decisions.

I plan to also take my kids away from access to devices and go through it. But what about when you need professional help? Insurance? I agree that the tech companies need to take responsibility. ***One solution from a non/professional, non tech person, is to properly gather correct age and identity of anyone accessing an online community. In order to have access to the platform and its content, communication, streaming, and all the other places a child can find themselves unprotected., screening of content and proper protections around adult content are in place and access to screen time is controlled.

Air B n B requires a user to prove who you are by having drivers license scanned -just as you would need to provide a valid ID to a clerk if you are to buy and have access to various adult content publications! Come on, the technology is there to provide the same barriers in the digital world to protect our youth!! And the devices too need to provide the correct tools to limit time and access to anything that can be obtained on the device.

This is common sense. Youtube needs to screen for violence,, inappropriate language and behavior. Everything should be screened BEFORE even be able to post! Just like the beginning of HBO era. All movies screened and had to edit before broadcasting any of its content and certain times certain broadcast could air. This is the way it should be now, plus parents having access on an Apple device to tools that create our own parental limitations, INCLUDING controls for Youtube, and Google.

thanks all...

I agree with you very strongly! We need more people who think like you around, not all these people who think their children need so much phone time! Seriously a child can get along fine without a phone!

I have not heard a thing from Apple except trying to erase some if postings here on this thread. I find it hard to believe they continue to leave things as is. Now its simply dangerous for kids to have phone. So far I haven’t replaced my 12 yr olds phone. The problem i have is we live in an island and he runs around with friends and cant be contacted. Im considering a walkee- talkee (walky -talky??) ...before a phone. Who knows, maybe he will be the cool one! I can buy a pack of them and he can loan them to friends and have fun! Walkee talkee!😉

Thank you for the thoughtful suggestion.

the problem is that his homework is digital now and requires his use of ipad or computer so if we take it away he can’t do homework. We keep it away a lot of the time anyway but it is tough during the school week due to the homework issue.

Exactly!

I understand technology is great and can be helpful as well but it should never take the place of being a parent and having accountability. Apple is not there to parent or be a babysitter for your kids. If your child keeps getting around the ScreenTime restrictions/settings, then take away their device. If they want it back, they would need to follow the rules.

If they need the device for homework and you find out they bypass the restriction, then take something else away. Ground them, whatever to show that there is a consequence for doing this. Saying we are helpless because our kid needs their device for xyz is just an excuse.

Remember, kids today have no idea what it was like without technology. This is all they have known and they are extremely good with it. No matter what restriction, program, etc, there is a kid that can get around it. Time to parent them instead. You bypass this, you get (insert punshiment). Problem solved.

I completely agree with rbone, I was going to add to the thoughtful suggestions too that in all fairness, this is the digital age and its very hard to not have the devices especially when all their peers use them to connect. My soon to be newly minted teen will want a phone of his own again soon, but I'm trying to hold on till he at least earns trust again. ( not as easy as it sounds! ) But we need to learn sustainability with screens internet gaming, and truthfully, the damage is real and we will need a professional! Just today I asked my kids school counselor to provide all the textbooks and any tactile learning materials in each class to have at home. I want my kid to read a book not everything relying on a screen. Schools are very digitally dependent. So this Friday I pick up a stack of books to have at home and very excited to offer something thats becoming “old school”!

My other thought to any parents raising kids in the digital age and naturally wanting to trust and expect their kids to take heed to the boundaries , is its just too much responsibility for the child to control all the temptations and all the things all their friends are doing. What practically the whole world is doing. So that leads to the phone manufacture to make sure they are not allowing an entry to things that are unsafe for children and a master on/off control for the parents to have.

Thus the purpose of this thread!

I forgot to add something: parents are also challenged If we take our kids phones away, the kids can go ballistic. Its sounds absurd but true. Most have an addiction one level or another just like most adults!

Enough of my thoughts!

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_addiction_disorder

*****Symptoms of withdrawal might include agitation, depression, anger and anxiety when the person is away from technology. These psychological symptoms might even turn into physical symptoms such as rapid heartbeat, tense shoulders and shortness of breath.[9]

*****Excessive Internet use has not been recognised as a disorder by the World Health Organization or the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5);however, the related diagnosis of gaming disorder has been included in the International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11).