I know there is a client list when using the airport utility so I can check that right?
The "Client List" in AirPort Utility is not always accurate, especially if WiFi devices are changing locations.
If you have a Mac laptop, you can get a much more reliable "read" if you.......
Locate the laptop near the Time Capsule for a few minutes
Hold down the option key on the laptop while you click on the WiFi menu at the top of the screen
Look for the BSSID and jot down just the last few characters
Now walk the laptop to the same room where the AirPort Express is located and perform the same BSSID check
If you see the same BSSID as the Time Capsule, then the laptop is still connected to the Time Capsule. If you see a different BSSID, then the laptop is connected to the AirPort Express
Macs will usually do a nice job of automatically switching AirPorts as the Mac changes locations but most PCs, iPhones and iPads will not do this very well, if they do it all.
For example, if my iPhone is connected to the AirPort in the office and I walk the iPhone to the other side of the house near another AirPort, the iPhone will usually stay connected to the office AirPort most of the time.
Sometimes, it will switch after a few minutes and sometimes it won't. The only way that I can make sure that the iPhone connects to the closest AirPort is temporarily turn off the WiFi on the iPhone, then turn it back on. Then, it will usually connect to the closest AirPort.
How does your MBP or iPhone know when to switch to the closer access point in an extended network?
In theory, the WiFi device should connect to the access point with the strongest signal. In practice, this does not always work as well as the theory suggests, especially with PCs and small mobile devices like iPhones and iPads.
LaPastenague, the expert who responded to your original post first, has said that WiFi in general is a mix of half science and half voodoo. He nailed it.