Update
After the reset on youtube a few times, that option no longer works. It completely removed my radio before it quit. Hitting the 3 buttons at once does nothing now. I did a factory reset (in the car settings) it restored my radio, and apple carplay is there. I have no idea if it solved the on/off issue because now I get no sound. Nothing. Screen works, no sound. That has nothing to do with my phone, because it is not connected, apple issued cord either. When I plug my phone in, it goes dead, and I have to restart that. Now, I drive listening to my phone radio or music on my phone speaker. For almost an $50,000 car, this is absolutely ridiculous.
Next stop is my dealer, if not resolved, I'm joining the class action suit.