I agree that the only thing that is going to permanently fix this CarPlay disconnect problem is either an update to the Infotainment system or an update to iOS version. It is a software issue. It seems that beta versions of iOS 13 that comes out in September does not fix it. So it is likely going to take an update to the Infotainment system.
i have spent days trying various fixes mentioned in these forums, new cable, reset infotainment system using YouTube instructions, deleted CarPlay profile, tried turning off Bluetooth, etc. None of it worked for more than a few days.
My local Acura dealer gets a lot of phone calls about this issue.
I have called Acura a number of times. Got my case sent to an escalation engineer. He was no help and just gave me the “company line”. I pointed out that people are spending 50,000 on these cars and not being told that CarPlay is very unreliable. He just said if you read the fine print of the documentation that comes with the car it says CarPlay is an Apple product it it is not their responsibility if it does not work.
I recommended that they email us all to keep us up to date on the issue but that refuse to do it. It seems they would rather hide the fact that it does not work. Unbelievable.
So I gave up on CarPlay because of all the frustration and just use the limited functionality that Bluetooth gives you.