Hello and welcome to Apple Support Communities IAfarmer1,
I see that you have a question about not hearing your iPhone ring when your Bluetooth headset is connected. I certainly understand wanting to be able to hear the phone ringing, and I'd be happy to help.
If you have the headset on and paired to your iPhone and you're not using it, you could power off the headset and you should be able to hear the phone ringing then. This would show that they are not connected to your iPhone at that time. Otherwise, you'd have to unpair and then pair them back together every time you want to use them. Not sure that is an option that you'd want to use, but the article below would help with pairing and unpairing if needed.
Pair a third-party Bluetooth accessory with your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch
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