After spending another hour on the phone with an AppleCare senior advisor who “knew nothing” of the Bluetooth/iPhone 11 Pro Max/iOS 13.1.2 issue and walked me through troubleshooting steps that I have done 5x already, I went to the Apple store and waited at the Genius Bar...only for the tech to tell me that he had never heard of the problem either! He wasn’t interested in reading this thread- he assumed it was an issue with my phone so he exchanged it for a new one.
After setting it up as a new device, I made a phone call and went out to start up my car...............and the EXACT same thing happened as before. It connected to my car, disconnected, reconnected, disconnected, etc. When it disconnects, it does not go to speakerphone- which means I can’t hear anything.
When I ask Siri to send a text, her voice no longer comes through my car- I have to put the phone up to my ear to hear what she is saying (which I obviously can’t do while driving). This means I’ve lost the ability to listen to or send texts while in my car.
I have not noticed any Bluetooth connectivity issues with my watch or my AirPods.
I know it’s not an issue with my car because we all have different cars yet similar problems. (Everyone except William.) It has to be an iOS issue, possibly just on certain phones or certain cars - but definitely related to the upgrade to iOS 13. I warned my husband not to upgrade his iPhone 8 because he still connects to my car perfectly.
Apple- get your collective head out of the sand and admit this is a bug- then GET IT FIXED!!!! This is a safety issue!!!