This is an update to my previous post...
There are two huge groups of items that I keep on my iMac but sync every time with the iPhone. One of them is songs and music videos from Music, the other pics and vids from Photos.
Since iOS 13 and macOS 10.15, I've come to learn that what takes a long time (for me, at least) is the sync up of the pic and vids. Every time I sync, I see the the pics/vids removed from the iPhone only to see them re-stored later. The sync process takes more than two hours every time either wired or wirelessly. With this, what I've been doing is I sync wirelessly during the night. One thing that's problematic here too is, it seems to me, if you add, remove or edit any pic or vid in Photos during the syncing. That, I've seen, stops the syncing process in the middle.
With this said what I decided to do is uncheck the box in Photos (in the Finder) so the pics and vids aren't synced up every time. I chose to keep the contents in the iPhone, which serves better my needs. After this change, syncing the updates to songs and music videos in Music is pretty much instantaneous.
This isn't ideal, but it's better than waiting 2+ hours every time, just to transfer one pic from the iMac to the iPhone.
I'm hopeful that Apple will rectify this in a future software update, though.