Hi Stephen,
as longstanding Apple veterans we clearly still have faith in the product but I must admit that my patience has been wearing thin since replacing my old MacBook Pro with this new (replacement) 16 inch 2019 model.
Unfortunately the visit to the Apple reseller this afternoon was a complete waste of time, as I guessed it would be - I had been sent there by Apple support who booked the appointment, ostensibly in order to replicate the problem using other monitors attached to the MacBook Pro. Not only did the store not have any monitors (or cables) available but they said that this often happens with customers being referred by Apple to investigate issues they are not in a position to undertake, other than basic diagnostics!!
Anyway to keep the response brief-I got back onto Apple, relayed my experience and annoyance to a senior support manager, who to give him his due, is taking personal responsibility for the issue and has escalated the issue up to the engineering section for their information. It's likely to be next week now before we get a response possibly but I will certainly keep people posted here regarding the outcome when I hear anything. They didn't seem to be aware (on their own databases) of the discussions about the issue happening on this forum either until I pointed it out.
The previous MacBook Pro was returned as I discovered that the ambient light sensor wasn't functioning at all and further complicating the current issue with the ambient lighting levels when connected to an external LG 5K superfine monitor.
Other issues have included dictation (which I use constantly) not functioning when MacBook Pro in clamshell mode plus other bugs in how it now behaves - see my other post here:
https://discussions.apple.com/thread/250734261
Engineering investigating this as well.
Issue with voice control (as opposed to dictation) which only works effectively if language English (United States) is selected when based in UK - this seems to be concerned with how Siri integrates with voice control and the servers used for transmitting the information. If you select English (UK) the latency is so bad it's unusable.
A possible overheating issue (very hot to touch in panel above Touch Bar) on the previous machine when connected to the 5K monitor.
Migration assistant didn't work (froze on each occasion) when setting up machine and had to resort to selective manual file transfer.
Individually some of these issues might not seem particularly critical, nor do they prevent use of the machine but collectively they add up to a great deal of frustration on my part, with hours spent with Apple support trying to diagnose (at my expense) issues that should have been resolved or tested prior to release.
Many thanks for the LG link and I'm hoping the majority of these issues can be resolved (eventually) - like everyone else I simply want to use the machine for the purpose for which they were made - being creative and productive, not spending 20+ hours on the phone to Apple Support (who are usually helpful) plus countless other hours dealing with the issues beyond that.
I'll keep you all updated once I receive any news.
Best regards.