I don't think the linked thread fully explains the problem @tallinn1960 is seeing. I am experiencing the same problem.
CalDAV sync iOS 13.3 <- -> Synology NAS: works
CalDAV sync macOS 10.15.2 <- -> Synology NAS: broken
Discussion 250658735 is about the discrepancy between migrating an iCloud based reminders database to the new format and the timing problem Apple introduced by not releasing iOS 13 and macOS 10.15 simultaneously, leaving users with broken setups and no proper warning dialogs before initiating the breakage. Apple also does not clearly communicate that the new reminders features are limited to the new database format and that new database format is limited to iCloud databases.
I migrated to iOS 13 and was excited about subitems (the most basic feature for any Todo-Software) being introduced to the reminders app. I was never asked to upgrade the database and I never found out how to use subitems. I assume that is because I am not using iCloud and it seems CalDAV users with non-iCloud databases are not migrated. That is acutally a good thing because that way I can continue to user reminders.
Or so I thought. Upgraded to macOS 10.15.2 and discovered Apple deliberately or by accident broke CalDAV sync for reminders - even in the old database format.
Apple has created quite the mess. I sincerely hope they can clean this up sooner than later. Engineering is aware of this problem. I hope they don't ignore it for months to come.