Just wanted to update everyone here and hope it helps. I was finally able to get my monitor to work and NOTHING else managed to work, this seems so random and ridiculous that you would never think to try.
After I connected my 4k MST DisplayPort monitor it was still just black and I had read people had success with just leaving it connected then coming back after a while and it worked, but I never intentionally tried. I was trying different things to get it to show up, but nothing, so I went to the other room and then came back like 20 min later, the display still connected and my MBP was sleeping, so I turned it on and logged in from screen lock and BAM 60hz all working perfect, picture shows and everything.
So I was able to reproduce this and its working 100% of the time so far. If you restart or shutdown it stops working again so you have to let it sit. Also want to note that for me the monitor showed up in OS X as the correct display connected but no picture.
- Plug-in monitor cable.
- Make sure OS X registers that a monitor has been connected by checking in Displays Pref, if the "arrangement" tab is there it's connected. Alternatively you can check "About this Mac" then click the Display tab to see if more than one monitor is connected.
- Make sure "Turn display off after" is not set to NEVER in energy prefs, mine is set to the default 10 min on power adapter.
- Let the computer sleep the display and go to screen lock.
- Turn on the MBP and login.
- Monitor should have picture now.
After you get picture, I was able to close the lid and go into clamshell mode, the a bit later opened up the lid and get dual displays. So the only thing that breaks it is restart or shutdown.
This was tested with 10.15.5 beta 3, but I don't see why it won't work in 10.15.2, 3, 4 honestly cause the same behavior of the monitor being connected but no picture was the same on all those versions for me.
Hope this helps someone, cause I know I've been so frustrated and going crazy trying to fix this issue over the last few weeks and after having spent $4600 on this 16" MacBook Pro I was furious. By the way I'm still waiting for the "Engineers" to get back to me through the Senior Apple Care advisor with a solution or an answer after 10 days...
Best of luck!