See If you forgot your Apple ID password https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201487
You also can use Having trouble signing in/iForgot https://iforgot.apple.com/password/verify/appleid
And you undoubtedly will need to see If you forgot the answers to your Apple ID security questions https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201485
Before trying to answer your security questions is very important that you think about your questions and their answers carefully and try to recall all details you can. If you don't answer them correctly enough, then you easily can lose control of your account.
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If you can't change your Apple ID, see: How to create a new Apple ID https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204316. See the data implications below.
Some of these things may apply even though not changing an Apple ID: What to do after you change your Apple ID or password https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204071
Keep in mind that some things available under a first Apple ID will not be available under a new Apple ID. For example, you won’t be able to transfer anything purchased from the App and iTunes Stores to the new ID. And, there are other issues to be addressed.
And see what Eric Root says on this matter here https://discussions.apple.com/thread/251343949 and
what Winston Churchill says about it here: https://discussions.apple.com/thread/7452747