link my apple tv with tv without appletv remote

What is your model Apple TV? Identify your Apple TV model - Apple Support

You will need a remote to operate it. You may be able to configure a universal remote or the Remote app on an iOS device.

The Apple TV (2nd or 3rd generation) need a functional remote to set up the Apple TV Remote app.

The Apple TV (4th or 5th generation) should recognize the Apple TV Remote Control Center widget or the Apple TV Remote app, even without a remote.

For the Apple TV (2nd or 3rd generation), your options are:

• buy a replacement Apple Remote (aluminum);
• temporarily borrow an Apple Remote (aluminum) to help set up the app;
• restore the Apple TV and connect a wireless keyboard to help set up the app;
• restore the Apple TV and connect the CiderTV Mac app to help set up the app.

After reseting your Apple TV, you will get the first page in the setup process, which is the "language" page.

To move forward, you MUST have a remote.

You can use the Siri remote, or even the old aluminum Apple remote, both work.

You can move forward without a remote.