Interested to know if this works for anyone else...
I posted a while back with the same issue. My monitor was not detected at all. I tried a lot of the solution offerings here and made up a few myself... and I can tell you it doesn't matter what side of the mouth you hold your tongue 👅
Incredibly I have now got my monitor back online with full resolution. I'll caveat this by saying "I have no fricken clue how this works and it doesn't make sense AND i can't even be sure what combo I did of the following but it works for me". I'm obviously reluctant to repeat the scenario incase the voodoo stops working and I lose my monitor again. So, it'll be interesting to see if this works for anyone else.
I think I took the USB-C cable for monitor out
I went into System Preferences >> Displays
As per someone else's instructions I tied to get the option to see all possible display resolutions.
https://osxdaily.com/2015/08/27/show-all-display-resolutions-external-screen-mac
I know the scale options never came up no matter what keys I was pressing but it was flicking between Default and Scaled
In the end I think I left it on Default.
Voodoo part... I then plugged my external monitor in and it was detected. WTAF
I then went back to display settings and bumped both of the resolutions to max and it worked fine.
I lost my monitor again at some point for no apparent reason and so did this tom foolery again and it worked.
If the community could give it a go and post back their steps if it worked maybe it'll help.
This is a horrible 'feature' and I feel for the community.
Mac OS Big Sur 11.1
Fall 2018 Mac Pro 13in
Samsung 4k monitor
Good luck