Is there a way to use carplay WITHOUT Siri?!

Getting highly irritated with the way my iPhone 12 interacts with my car.

• If I turn WiFi off and connect via cable or bluetooth, my phone constantly pops up the message "turn wifi on to enable carplay"
• If I turn WiFi on and connect via Carplay (though with Siri off) it spams me with the message to enable Siri, but then registers as having connected via Carplay and disables my ability to control media through my car's infotainment system. On the infotainment it will simply keep telling me "that function is unvailable while using Carplay" or something along those lines

The disturbing part really comes into play where I passed a large, growing fire on the side of the freeway and tried to call it in (homeless encampment, couldn't tell if there were still people trapped inside or not, etc). I hit the voice control and said "dial 911" and it would not recognize the command. I tried "call" "dial" "phone" etc and since Siri was disabled, it messed with my car voice controls and locked me out of voice dialing 911.

I don't use Siri and have no interest in virtual assistants, especially not when I have competing virtual assistants listening and recording everything I say (I don't care if it's for internal development or to sell my info and ads; I don't want it either way). I also don't use FaceID / TouchID vs just a pin, but that's a different convo.

Using Siri should not be mandatory to play music and use your phone with your car. How do I get full functionality, without getting spammed with messages to enable either Siri or Wifi? The voice commands will work (call 911, call John, etc) if I don't connect via Carplay and just use bluetooth (still with Siri disabled) so why the **** can't it work via Carplay?