Hacking or invasion of privacy

tmartinez29 Said:

"Hacking or invasion of privacy: so I share a line with my soon to be ex-husband he’s very good with computers he’s somehow able to install on our family plan where he can stop people from contacting me or me contacting them how do I change that? [...]I personally did not delete any of them it seems to be people he does not want me to contact he’s very very good with computers I’m just curious technology is not my strong suit!!!!"

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Restore to Factory Settings:

If you are so concerned, then reset your iPhone to factory settings. Go here: What to do Before you Sell, Give Away, or Trade in your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support

Backing Up Items:

Note that all downloads would be lost. So, make a note of Apps that were downloaded. Also, enable items in iCloud, so that all is backed up. As an example, here is how to backup Contacts...

I. Enable Contacts in iCloud Settings:

Is Contacts enabled in iCloud Settings? If not, then enable it, and see if it pops up. If so, then it is gone amongst all devices associated to your Apple ID. So, to enable it:

A. Enabling on an iPhone:

Enable Contacts in iCloud:

1. Go to: Settings
2. Tap: your name (top item)
3. Tap: iCloud
4. Tap: Contacts (so that it is green)

and...

B. Enable on a Mac:

Is Contacts enabled in Apple ID on your Mac? If not, enable it.

1. Go to: System Preferences
2. Click: Apple ID
3. Enable: Contacts

First off read the following link so you can get out of family sharing -> Leave Family Sharing - Apple Support

After you do this change the passcode on your iPhone, your Apple ID password. and any others that are important to you. you might want to make a Genius Bar appointment to get help -> Genius Bar Reservation and Apple Support Options - Apple

Next get off of his phone plan and open one of your own.

Blue bubble texts are iMessages, i.e. ones to and from people who have iPhones.

Green bubble texts are SMS texts, mostly people who do not have iPhones.

If you send a message to someone with an iPhone and it changes to green it means they are not connected to cell data and WiFi. The issue is on their end.

I doubt your soon to be ex is near as good with computers as you think he is. If you have a women's shelter in your area they can also help you get some local expertise.