Airdrop not working on new iphone13
I upgraded from iphone SE1 to iphone 13 mini. Everything swapped across and the new iphone works perfectly in everyway except airdrop. I have it set to Contacts Only for airdrop, as is my old SE and my wife's iphone. When my wife tries to airdrop a photo to me, my name (and photo) show up on her phone, but the drop only works to the old SE. If I turn off the SE completely, it still shows up, but "waiting" forever.
If I set my new iphone 13 airdrop to receive "everyone" it show up as iphone 13, but not my name. However, it does work. But it won't when set to "contacts only".
Since it works with "everyone" there seems little point in following some Google "fixes" like resetting network, and signout of icloud.
Any clues?