Lupunus,
Don't want you pulling your hair out, Lord knows I've lost enough hair myself over this wireless issue. Let me clear up a couple points, and please --- give me credit for having half a brain. I may not be an expert in the all the details of 802.11(xxx) WiFi, but I DO know a thing or two about computer architectures, protocol stacks, OS's, etc. So here's my point(s) in no particular order:
1. These problems started LONG before I swapped out the older Airport card for a newer Airport Extreme card in this MBP. Installing the new hardware NEITHER improved, nor did it degrade the WiFi disconnection problem/issues I was having. It was the same. Just to confirm, because I couldn't believe it myself, I put the old card back in and noted same behavior. Either card, same behavior. So I put the new Airport Extreme card in, figuring no harm, no foul, maybe better operation on public WiFi's with "n". I inspected what I could of the antenna connections to the card at the same time (with a mag. glass), and noted nothing that looked incorrect. Conclusion - the WiFi card and connections were not the underlying problem.
2 . By the way, I made sure SL had the latest updates when doing the above. The OS successfully found the new Airport Extreme hardware, and successfully enabled the "n" drivers. Original SL was a clean install. SL and updates came after the new Airport Extreme card was installed. The system has ONLY seen the Airport Extreme card, never the older card.
3. Upgrading this model of laptop to Airport Extreme is approved upgrade for this model. I checked. Not a surprise, if it can be replaced with a new card, Apple would have been wise enough to support that.
4. Above leads me to conclude that SL is perfectly capable of recognizing an Airport or an Airport Extreme card, and based on that difference will load the approriate hardware level firmware and drivers and parts of the protocol stack needed by each respectively. Now here is where my knowledge of networking architectures done the RIGHT WAY comes in....only an idiot would design a computer system with interchangeable hardware and in particular where an approved upgrade and/or replacement network card could be installed and then turn around and hard-code the loading of drivers and protocol stacks tied to the computer platform rather than to a specific network card. Apple may be a lot of things, but "idiot" doesn't strike me as one of them. I give them the benefit of the doubt - the designed the system properly and all evidence supports that conclusion.
5. You correctly identified the Amped WAP I am using. Let me make clear, it is set up as a separate SSID, for all intents and purposes it is a completely separate network. Different channel, different SSID, different location. Upstairs is the "g" network, downstairs is the "n" network. Computer sees them both just fine.
6. I can make either WiFi network go dark whenever I want, and try working with just one network. I can remove ALL other networks from the preferred network list in Network Preferences, etc. on the computer and....I get same behavior from the single WiFi network (regardless of whether it is "g" or "n"). I am not trying to create a "roaming" environment. I will gladly keep each network separate, switch between when I am upstairs or down, whatever it takes to make things work reliably. Now, if Apple's Airport Extreme won't work in an environment with separate networks such as this, then they should get out of the business altogether. Because the world is quickly filling up with exactly this sort of environment and running in same is mandatory. My 4 year old Dell laptop does it just fine.
FInally, I wouldn't be wasting this forum's time without first personally exhausting all avenues of prospective solutions and without burdening the forum with something that comes across as a "rant". When I arrived on the forum many months ago, it was clear that many others, with a variety of MBP systems (older and brand new) were having very similar/identical problems. I ignored all the posts with people who were obviously having other problems or who couldn't accurately describe their problems or environment. But when you cut through the 80% of posts with meaningless information, you are left with the 20% who have the same problems/symptoms, and you have to admint that it is no mere coincidence. And you have to admit that the problems can't just be chalked up to "OS upgrades". Some of these problems are occuring with MBP right out of the box, sitting right next to other systems that are working on the customer's WiFi flawlessly.
I'll end this post because I realize I am now starting to sound like I am ranting, which is not my intent. Clearly, Apple has a WiFi problem with MBP hardware (mine or others). Let's just agree on that point.