Hey Rob,
I'm sorry if you're a bit cynical...but you are reading information on a free forum..where I posted free advice..and yes...its just so happens to be linked to my website where you can read the information for FREE. I took time to write out a post, on a site I've dedicated time and money to. I spent 3 hours today troubleshooting this particular issue and felt that I would post my findings to help others who may encounter the same problem. There are 39 PAGES of replies on this topic and it's easy to find on google..so rest assured if it doesn't solve YOUR problem it will surely solve the problem for others.
Again...sorry if looking at my free website that has ONE sidebar of ads is a big pain to you, but you don't really have to drop an attitude on a dude thats just trying to help you and the other THOUSANDS of people with this problem out.
Good luck with your issues man, sorry my information was not helpful in solving it. The bottom line is, until APPLE actually makes WIFI syncing just "work" how it should, you are going to have to depend on guys like me to provide you with some advice or figure it out on your own.