basically, my problem was, that this bundle was simply not there on my hard drive (and i sure as **** did not delete it first!). funnilly enough i found it in my time machine. i think what wjtaggart posted, with not deleting the files, but simply replacing them from the time machine, is probably the best way. because with even carefully following cwa2's steps, my mac stopped to function normally, and i couldn't install any programs. i am wondering now if pacifist would have helped?
but honestly, if someone doesn't feel fit enough to try the suggested steps out, they should probably find someone who does. looking in a support forum only helps as far as you understand the issue/system. i'd strongly suggest to find some computer crack, if one does not know how to cope with the system files or mac terminal, etc. a certain understanding of the system is absolutely mandatory. once i understood that this was a problem with the itunes software, i realized that what cwa2 wrote made complete sense, and once this didn't quite work i retraced my steps and realized that i simply hat to replace the faulty files with the good ones from my time machine, which eventually worked.
today my iphone 5 and ipad wanted to upgrade to ios8 - since i am not syncing my iphone with my mac, i updated it there, but i dare not to update my ipad, just in case this will stop working. does anyone know if itunes 11.3.1 is compatible with ios8? i seriously would not be surprised if it isn't... so i am waiting a bit, at least after my holidays, so that i will be able to sync until after i am back, since i most definitely will not want to be bothered with sync issues, when i am on my well deserved vacation! 😉
hope you all could solve your issues, or will very soon!