I've tried all the remedies suggested in this thread up to but not including deleting the thread. I've tried deselecting email addresses for iMessage, reseting all settings, disabling and re-enabling iMessage, even backing up and restoring the phone, the 'message the group + yourself but then remove yourself' trick didn't work at all (I never received an additional text after sending the initial message). None of these fixed the problem.
I can start a new thread with the same two other people and myself, and iOS knows it should be an iMessage thread, but if I delete myself from the To: field it loads up the existing conversation and thinks it's a Group MMS thread. I really don't want to have to delete this thread as it has a lot of important history in it. Has anyone come up with any thing not listed here that worked for them? Any official word from Apple, should I hold out until 8.1 for a fix?