"Recovering an Apple account" is by far the worst apple experience. Total incompetence on their behalf.
Here's the deal, I accidently disabled my phone which had the two step verification process enabled and I had no trusted devices that could receive texts (the other device was my son's ipad and he was signed into messages using his own apple account). Therefore, because I forgot the password, I was required to "recover" the apple account. I learned this on the iforgot page of apple's website.
It was three days of total frustration. I went to the iforgot page and started account recovery. I entered the correct credit card and used a friend's phone number to have the verification information sent. At the end of this process, the apple website said that the "account recovery process has begun and it would take a few days and to check back for a status." After a few hours, I went back to check the status. It made me start over. This series of events repeated 4-5 times over the next few days. I called Apple on Day 2 to inquire. The customer service representative said that the account recovery was underway and there was nothing she could do to check the status or expedite. The following day, I called again because I was again made to start the process over. I was fortunate to talk to a gentleman who knew what he was doing. He first said that there was no indication that my account was in the recovery process. However, he then suggested I go to ITunes on my son's ipad. Wow! My apple ID was signed in on that device (different than imessage). I was able to change my apple password through that. Took no time. Problem solved.
1. Why didn't the first representative with whom I spoke suggest that I look at other places where I may had been signed in with the apple id so that it would be easy to just change my password?
2. Why didn't I get a confirmation email regarding account recovery to the email account linked to the apple id?
3. Why did the account recovery process never actually start notwithstanding the fact I went through the process 4-5 times?
4. Why can't you talk to anyone about account recovery? Seriously, there are a lot of ways to verify identify. Why does it have to go into the faceless internet abyss?
LESSON LEARNED - DISABLE THE 2 STEP VERIFICATION!!!!! NOT WORTH THE TROUBLE!!!!