So after the first call I had last night, that it dropped 15 minutes into - I called back myself an hour later and was able to get someone.
The person I dealt with had me try a few things.
Frist we went into a 2nd profile, in my case my wife's profile on my Mac mini. There I was able to show that both my soundbar and Google nest were not able to be connected to.
Next we shutdown and did a power up in "Safe Mode" where we were unable to connect there too - we dropped both item from the BT menu and preferences, did a repairing of both items. Both items were able to pair and seemed to be working.
Restarting out of "Safe Mode" and going back into my profile, both items were still in the BT menu and both in the sound menu, I was able to get audio through both items no issues - all seemed to be fixed.
I then clicked on the soundbar to let the mini know I did not want sound going to it. then I found it dropped the item from the options in the sound menu. When I went to click back on the item again to let the mini know I wanted that as my speaker, it showed the icon for the bar to be blue BUT in the sound menu nothing was there and in the BT preference window the sound bar was not showing up, yet the BT menu for items I can pick from shows it there and connected.
The Google nest seems to be hold strong so far with connection.
The person I was dealing with gave me a link where I can directly contact her with updates and follow ups if needed.
My suggestion is to call them at this point. Clearly they are not looking or willing to suggest anything on here. Both people I talked to seemed totally unaware of the issue, so either we are the only ones effected by it, or the only ones bringing it up.
I will say, there were a few times with both support staff it felt like I was going to get the suggestion of going out and buying a HomePod when I informed them I have no Apple items that are BT that I could connect to see - got that feeling of them wanting me to go out and get something just to be done with the issue. Not going to go full "tin foil hat" with the conspiracy that Apple is making 3rd part BT stuff now work in favor, or pushing buyers, to get Apple stuff. But it felt like it at times.
But I think calling them and let them know verbally at this point is the only way this issue is going to be brought up and possible looked into and fixed.