My issue seems to have worked itself out. I did two things.
1. I left it alone for days. Battery was dying so fast it was of no use to me on my wrist. I charged it and forgot about it for 2 days. Maybe it was updating something but I have my doubts. It had over a week to sort out any maintenance it needed to do after the updates.
2. I changed one setting. Under FaceID and settings I made sure that Unlock with Apple Watch was ON. It used to be on but appears to have flipped off during the updates. I checked this setting because of all of the issues I am hearing about this and the new iPhone. While my iPhone is currently not new I figured it’s worth checking. Strangely it was off.
it is now 11 hours later and my watch still has 54% charge.