It was a person I spoke with the apple support phone line. I agree that it would be nice if Apple already had a fix for this, but I was excited that at least someone at Apple admitted the problem existed. (The previous two people I had spoken with from apple support said they had never heard of this before.)
You don't have to believe them, but I'm not sure why they would lie to me about wanting me to give them diagnostic data from the moment that the mail error is occurring. (If it was an intentional misinformation campaign by apple, why did it take me three phone calls to apple support to finally get this answer for the first time?)
It seemed like a legitimate request and a reasonable way for them to help figure out why this might be happening. It's also something I'm actually capable of doing, running a terminal script. Whereas the previous person I had spoken with said they couldn't do anything for me if they weren't on the phone live with me as the error was occurring, which I had explained to them wasn't possible because it happened randomly when I didn't expect it. This terminal command on the other hand is something I can try even if I'm not on the phone with apple support just before it occurs.
You don't need to try this out if you don't want to. I was happy though to have received some sort of reasonable suggestion from apple, which it seems no one on this board was able to get yet. Hence I wanted to share the info. Ignore it if you'd prefer.